The Art & Science of Thriving in Modern Motherhood
I know you LOVE your kids.
And I know that sometimes you wish you could take a vacation... all alone... just to feel like yourself again.
I know that you secretly fantasize about 36-hour days where you get all your work done and everyone else stays magically asleep so you don't have to miss anything.
I know that there's so much you love about your life... but sometimes you just miss feeling like yourself.
Starting to sound like I'm in your head? I'm not... I've just been where you are.
Here's the great news... The answer is not taking a deep breath and being patient until the kids are older. The answer is not giving your partner a personality change, or escaping to an ashram. It's not white-knuckling it through another all-nighter so you can finally finish everything on your to-do list. It's not grocery delivery or hiring someone to clean your house. The answer is not being a better mom.
The answer is getting out of your own way so you can be a better you.
How? I've got you there. You don't need to feel around in the dark like I did - I've collected the most powerful tools that I used to change my own life from the worlds of coaching, psychology, and deep mind/body practices. This is inside-out work, and the ripple effects are stunning.
If your thoughts are in a 3-way tug-of-war between "curious", "this must be some new-aged BS", and "I don't have time"... I will make you the same two promises I make all my clients before they start to blow their own damn minds:
"Coaching is not magic. But it sure feels like it."
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Hello my friend.
Let's get something clear from the get-go. Although my superpower is coaching moms, this does not mean we'll be discussing how to hide spinach in brownies to trick your kid into eating vegetables. We are not here learning discipline techniques or planning perfect princess parties. There are places and people for all of that... but not here, and not me.
If you are here, I am assuming these things about you... in order:
Radiant multifaceted being - first. Mother - second.
Soul who longs to be set on fire - first. Human who makes lunches for other humans who can't reach the top shelf - second.
While most messages from society will try to convince you that as soon as you have a kid, that's the most important thing about you...
I am devoted to reminding you about, and reviving all of the other parts of you.
Here's the truth...
You think you're loving your family by putting her on hold.
But I've got news for you...
...You're keeping the people you love from knowing the most vibrant, alive, in-love-with-life version of you.
Instead, they get the one who is working overtime to seem alive and vibrant, but is inwardly filled with anxiety & overwhelm. Or the one who is exhausted from trying to do all the things on the official Mom To-Do List, numbing herself with projects/food/alcohol/instagram, and just waiting for the hours to pass until she can go to sleep.
... Does that sound like love?
Before you blame yourself and start adding this to your list of things to do better... Let's pause...
I'm not saying motherhood doesn't change you. I'm not saying its not the most magical tornado in the world. I'm not saying that my kids aren't the thing I'm most proud of creating in my entire life.
What I am saying is that if you find yourself, day after day, looking at your life and wondering why you're not as grateful as you think you should be... why you're not as appreciative... why this picture you worked so hard for is not as satisfying as you thought it would be...
That's worth paying attention to.
Think about it like this... Something inside of you is feeling like any of us would feel if we made an important call and were put on hold for an hour... for a day... for a month... for a few years...
Maybe a little desperate to get our message across.
That's what's happening inside you right now, my friend. Something inside of you is giving you a clue that there is more for you.
Or simply, more of you.
Before you decide this is a scheduling problem, let me save you some time...
This is not about inserting a regular phone date with your girlfriends and taking a kickboxing class... That's all fine, but the things on your calendar are just symptoms. We need to go all the way back up to the root cause if we want to make real, lasting changes...
So what is the root cause of all this? Spoiler alert. It's a nature/nurture combination that's not stacked in your favor...
More specifically, it's your brain in this environment. Your perfectly functioning human brain that is steeped in a steady stream of pinterest, patriarchy, and perfectionism.
This issue isn't specific to mothers, of course. Everyone with a brain has these same thought issues and could use the same solutions.
But as mothers, we're already stretched so thin that if we're not managing our minds, and thinking strategically on purpose, we have a lot less margin for error than the average person. We're already juggling all the things. We already have that 24-7 lifetime career before we even get out of bed in the morning.
That's why I'm devoted to helping moms.
Because for us, this isn't just an elective course in self-improvement... managing our minds (or not) is the first domino that will determine your life at home, your life in the world, your relationships, and most importantly, how you feel doing all of it.
And because you are so connected to other people in the world, the ripple effects you create when you start to live intentionally are both stunning and profound.
You're kind of a big deal.
Teaching this intentional thoughtwork and mind mastery is exactly what I do with my clients, and we get results.
It is what makes the difference between feeling like your life his happening to you, or feeling like your life is being created by you.
This is both good news and bad news, of course... because it means you have to stop blaming your life on other people, on your job, on things outside your control. But by giving up that excuse, you also trade it for the ability to start creating exactly the life you were meant to live. I'll teach you how.
I'm not saying being a mom won't be central to you anymore.
I'm suggesting you can have your cake and eat it, too. I'm suggesting both/and. I'm suggesting integration.
I know it sounds scary...
Hear me now. This is all fear talking.
Fear has been in charge for too long... Fear is what has gotten us here.
Fear of not being a "good mom." Fear of falling short in the modern mom / career / relationship juggling game. Fear that you should be happier... and fear to admit that you're not.
If you start hanging out with me, we're going to start listening to some different voices.
Voices like Love, Science, Psychology, Possibility.
And You. The real You. The whole You. She's going to be the voice we listen to the most.
Here is really what happens once you get started, if you ask my clients...
Most importantly... Yes, it is worth the fuss. It is worth the effort.
So let's start now... what does that little voice inside you say when you ask yourself this?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
That mixed rising and sinking feeling is your clue.
That's the real you in there saying, "More playing time, please." The version of you who is waiting to make your life as adventurous, romantic, colorful, and impactful as you've always dreamed it would be.
The multi-faceted you who is actually amazing at life, including handling those short people who live in your house, even though she is much, much more than that.
Let's get to know her better, shall we?
Coaching and therapy are like cousins - if you squint you can spot the resemblance, but they're clearly two different people. The coaching that I do is all forward-focused. We will focus on your mind, goals, your habits, your relationships, and what you want to create in the world.
The difference between this kind of coaching and many other kinds is that we address the root cause of what's going on, not the symptom. Using this work as the base, I've helped clients lose weight and find freedom around food, find more joy in their relationships, start businesses, find jobs, enjoy their lives more, lower their anxiety, get more done... We can tackle it all.
The best way to is to book a free consultation and feel it out. We'll spend an hour on the phone together chatting about what's going on in your life, your goals, and your mind. At the end, if we both think it's a good fit, we'll get to work. On the other hand, if you don't think coaching is the next right step for you, or I don't think I'm the right coach for you, then we'll celebrate that we got to have a great conversation in a world where that's increasingly rare.
You can make a ton of progress with just the podcast if you actually apply what you learn and don't just listen for entertainment. But if you have a coach who is showing you your own brain, you'll get to where you're going 10x faster, and 10x less expensively. This is why I have my own coach. Even when you're steeped in this stuff, you can't see your own blinders when you have them on.
Because the pee is silent. (Just making sure you're still paying attention. My kids think this is the best joke ever.)
I wouldn't call them "mind-hacks" unless you call gravity a "physics hack." The tools that I use take advantage of neural plasticity (your brain's ability to learn,) and cognitive psychology. The big difference, though is that we also get fluent in the language of the body with deep mind/body work. Why? Have you ever decided to do something, felt tons of motivation in the moment, and then later could not bring yourself to follow through? That's why. No more of that.